Age

Our mind is evolving with our experiences and age. We learn how to deal and cope. Some challenges we face still cause stress and fear, but the way we pass through them, and the way we deal with the outcome, no matter what it is, that’s the gift of getting older.

It means, maybe, that the more we actively experience and learn when we are young, then it pays off later when older.

On some areas, our weaknesses or fears, or what we consider as such, only grow with age. That’s exactly the opposite of the first paragraph. Why is that so? were those fears too deep, did we avoid dealing with them when younger?

Some adults keep adding more challenges and stress as they grow, sometimes life does it for them without a choice. I think a good goal would be to channel our life to moderate to no addition of challenges, at least as a wish.

And our body? that’s the part that keeps our feet grounded, You can grow, cope, achieve. At the same time our body demands more, able to less, our skin gets old, our health requires more maintenance. Maybe that’s the world way to show you can’t have it all, and where one area grows the other one goes back. We must accept it, because there’s no other way.

The best way, I think, is not to fight, not try to become younger because we can’t. Some people try, but it useless. Embrace it. Eat better, sleep, workout. Rest. And embrace the amazing mind growth we earn from our life experiences. It’s the mind and energy growing. The matter, is just matter.

Good friends

How do you know it’s deep? When you meet each other after a long time, it feels as if you saw each other yesterday. It feels like routine, with a little warmth inside. You know the good and the bad. It’s predictable but holds interesting updates.

Why it’s deep? because you’ve been to a lot together. Many times you didn’t choose each other, someone else did it for you, but the result is shared values, memories and experiences. Good times and many bad times. Everyone is an open book. No one tries to hide anything. No one can or wants to hide something.

When meeting a group of people with deep connection, there’s a special energy for that. People around this group can also feel it. The trust is high, the laughs are contagious.

You might feel tired after these meetings, but on a deeper level, it fills your battery. It strengthen the core that support your long term energy, not the daily one.

It’s valuable because there are no shortcuts. It’s deep because it’s deep. If it’s shallow, it will never be deep.

She looked at the sky through the window

She came from school and sat in the kitchen

She looked at the sky through the window

The blue skies opened her eyes, and white clouds expended her smile

A bird came and sat on the window, closing its eyes, enjoying the sun bath

A tear dropped

She was confused

The calmness and happiness of the moment opened her heart

Her open heart let the sadness come out

She felt tired, but in peace

She looked at the sky through the window

Don’t

Be in a room with two different sources of music

Walk in too much sun and too much humid heat

Move too quickly from a quiet to a noisy environment

Wait too much avoiding dealing with shit that makes you feel bad

Ask too many existential questions. Or too little

Fast. I know what they say. Just don’t

Be in a room with people that suck all the air out

Be too busy

Be afraid to be alone

Don’t be afraid of double negative

Ask yourself.

Which childhood memory relaxes you before falling asleep? Good. Keep it with you

What and who is around you when you feel one? when your muscles are soft

What energize you?

What scares you?

What holds you back?

Are you consuming too much media and social media? can you consume less? try it

Do you feel stress or agitation over the weekend? what does it mean? Same question for vacation

What’s the distance between how you parent and how you want to parent?

When did you surprise yourself? others?

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Write it down. And go back to what you were doing. No decisions, just refection. Things will mature when it’s time.

You are before a change. Here’s what’s inside your head

  • Mood swings that cover a wide range of positive and negative emotions.
  • Energy swings, from moments of high motivation to moments of feeling stuck.
  • Fear of the unknown and of how people will react to the change.
  • Moments of clarity where you have a clear sense of what is needed.
  • Difficulty moving forward without a clear internal framework or external support and accountability.
  • Finding subtle, sub-contextual meanings in otherwise meaningless situations.
  • Doubt and second-guessing about the decision to make a change.
  • Excitement about the possibilities that lie ahead.
  • A sense of being on the cusp of something significant.
  • Nostalgia for what you are leaving behind, even if it was not fulfilling.
  • A need to let go of old habits and beliefs that no longer serve you.
  • A sense of being called to a higher purpose or mission.
  • Anxiety about the practicalities and logistics of making the change.
  • A sense of relief or release once the decision has been made.
  • A desire for a fresh start and a clean slate.