Looking at your kid playing with others. Sensing every body movement, stress, excitement, awkwardness.
Thinking you can read his feelings.
Wishing you could have read his feelings.
Are those my feelings or his?
Can I help him?
Can I help myself?
There is so much friction for a thinker in being untrue. Try to avoid. You get so powerful when using the truth, even if it is not always the prettiest, it makes you the strongest. Both when you tell something to other and when you are telling it to yourself.
If you sometimes mirror your thoughts out and one can see that something is on your heart, B true.
I move slow, and I think a lot. I make mistakes and get sad. My mind drifts many times. But I have long term patient. And I am persistent. It balances all the rest. B persistent
A kid crying in a noisy family event. Not leaving his mom’s leg. Listen to him. He is trying to say something.
Closing room’s door, listening to air condition’s white noise, is not weird.
Not feeling an equal partner in high school’s cool group, but seeking this one close friend, is not anti social.
Wanting and not wanting to be part of this cool group, is an introvert not knowing he is one.
Feeling physically uncomfortable and sweaty while waiting in lines, is related to your nervous system.
Feeling not in and not out during every scouts activity. Feeling that not attending scouts activity is a bit giving up. Well it is not.
Friday night, empty house, reading and staring in the rain, is the biggest fun ever. This one I actually always knew 🙂
Thanks Susan 🙂 Let’s raise our kids with these amazing findings in our head. Each time we feel an itch why they are a bit different. Well they are not.
How many different models are there to reach “success”?
Not enough. Actually one.
The lack of information and laziness cause us to put things in boxes.
Here is the model in the box:
Be Assertive, it’s ok to be Aggressive. After all you are running towards the Vision. You are a Visionaire and an Executor. Execution is all.
Important to be Result Driven and Focused. Use your Charisma to lead and tell the story. Decide Fast. Break Something.
Tell a Story. Hopefully it’s close to reality but not a must.
Outcome => This model fits a specific group. For some of us it is unnatural, we feel second best and frustrated.
We really don’t need to apply it to all.
Don’t fit in the model. Create one. Start small.
Most days I don’t like this word. Some days I want to taste it.
I don’t like that in order to be great I must be better than others. And for this to be validated I need to be compared to others. That’s it, lets forget this word then.
So what happens in other days?
Greatness probably goes with having your unique voice. And it goes many times with authenticity. You must take some decisions and risks to speak up.
So =>
greatness 2.0 ingredients:
having a voice,
listening to it,
speaking up and act,
set example,
define your rules for the process,
and go to rest,
So many words around us. Fueled by fast pace social feeds.
When does a dialog or content have a real meaning?
It happens when there are shared or similar past and present with a person. Otherwise the interaction might be a cliché.
A strong present is created when we share values with a person. It matters more than frequency of meeting.
Two sides sharing values are likely to feel caring and empathetic.
Connections based on sarcasm or negativity are temporary and energy consuming. Like the impact of alcohol.
Share values with your echo system. Reduce interfaces that are not value based. And be at peace with that.
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