Money and me. If a tree falls and nobody hears.

November 15, 2020November 15, 2020 / jonathan / Leave a comment

It’s Ambivalent. I’m Ambivalent.

Let’s start with the easy stuff. Those we use money (which they have or don’t have) to show success, to gain respect, that’s not a smart move. It’s dependent on what other are thinking. And that’s a drug you want to avoid. I never really understood.

But the more complex angle is that I want money. And it’s hard to acknowledge it. Am I like them?

I want it because it comes with supporting my family and securing their future. To the degree money can.

I want it because it brings financial independence. So I don’t need to think short term and compromise my values.

I want it because I want to rest a bit. Loosen up FOMO a bit.

But am I true with myself? completely? no external reasons? If others knew about my money, would it make me feel better?

Being close, being angry

March 23, 2018July 25, 2019 / jonathan / Leave a comment

My colleague was angry at me. He thought I criticized him too much.

The immediate instinct was to be angry back.

Then I said ” I see you are angry at me. I understand it. I want you to know I am trying to do what is right for you. You are important to me”. I said what I felt.

He was still angry.

The day after I learned he accepted my advice, although he did not have to. I smiled. I knew he understood and appreciated.

I felt we have built something healthy together.

Now replace *colleague* with *kid*.

Be true.

Share values.

Be true, be persistent

March 21, 2018July 25, 2019 / jonathan / Leave a comment

There is so much friction for a thinker in being untrue. Try to avoid. You get so powerful when using the truth, even if it is not always the prettiest, it makes you the strongest. Both when you tell something to other and when you are telling it to yourself.

If you sometimes mirror your thoughts out and one can see that something is on your heart, B true.

I move slow, and I think a lot. I make mistakes and get sad. My mind drifts many times. But I have long term patient. And I am persistent. It balances all the rest. B persistent

What is greatness?

March 15, 2018July 25, 2019 / jonathan / Leave a comment

Most days I don’t like this word. Some days I want to taste it.

I don’t like that in order to be great I must be better than others. And for this to be validated I need to be compared to others. That’s it, lets forget this word then.

So what happens in other days?

Greatness probably goes with having your unique voice. And it goes many times with authenticity. You must take some decisions and risks to speak up.

So =>

greatness 2.0 ingredients:

having a voice,

listening to it,

speaking up and act,

set example,

define your rules for the process,

and go to rest,

Meaningful dialog. Simple

March 13, 2018July 29, 2019 / jonathan / Leave a comment

So many words around us. Fueled by fast pace social feeds.

When does a dialog or content have a real meaning?

It happens when there are shared or similar past and present with a person. Otherwise the interaction might be a cliché.

A strong present is created when we share values with a person. It matters more than frequency of meeting.
Two sides sharing values are likely to feel caring and empathetic.

Connections based on sarcasm or negativity are temporary and energy consuming. Like the impact of alcohol.

Share values with your echo system. Reduce interfaces that are not value based. And be at peace with that.