Looking at your kid playing with others. Sensing every body movement, stress, excitement, awkwardness.
Thinking you can read his feelings.
Wishing you could have read his feelings.
Are those my feelings or his?
Can I help him?
Can I help myself?
A kid crying in a noisy family event. Not leaving his mom’s leg. Listen to him. He is trying to say something.
Closing room’s door, listening to air condition’s white noise, is not weird.
Not feeling an equal partner in high school’s cool group, but seeking this one close friend, is not anti social.
Wanting and not wanting to be part of this cool group, is an introvert not knowing he is one.
Feeling physically uncomfortable and sweaty while waiting in lines, is related to your nervous system.
Feeling not in and not out during every scouts activity. Feeling that not attending scouts activity is a bit giving up. Well it is not.
Friday night, empty house, reading and staring in the rain, is the biggest fun ever. This one I actually always knew 🙂
Thanks Susan 🙂 Let’s raise our kids with these amazing findings in our head. Each time we feel an itch why they are a bit different. Well they are not.
How many different models are there to reach “success”?
Not enough. Actually one.
The lack of information and laziness cause us to put things in boxes.
Here is the model in the box:
Be Assertive, it’s ok to be Aggressive. After all you are running towards the Vision. You are a Visionaire and an Executor. Execution is all.
Important to be Result Driven and Focused. Use your Charisma to lead and tell the story. Decide Fast. Break Something.
Tell a Story. Hopefully it’s close to reality but not a must.
Outcome => This model fits a specific group. For some of us it is unnatural, we feel second best and frustrated.
We really don’t need to apply it to all.
Don’t fit in the model. Create one. Start small.
Most days I don’t like this word. Some days I want to taste it.
I don’t like that in order to be great I must be better than others. And for this to be validated I need to be compared to others. That’s it, lets forget this word then.
So what happens in other days?
Greatness probably goes with having your unique voice. And it goes many times with authenticity. You must take some decisions and risks to speak up.
So =>
greatness 2.0 ingredients:
having a voice,
listening to it,
speaking up and act,
set example,
define your rules for the process,
and go to rest,
“There’s something inside me that pulls beneath the surface
Consuming, confusing” (Linkin Park, Crawling)
I had a few days with some stress in my gut. I heard a lot of music that felt good. But the solution, which is for sure temporary, was:
Music, few hugs and happy family moments were an amazing distraction. But just a distraction. Same goes to working out, which usually does the work. But not this time.
Why some things that happen stay with me for so long? I know it’s an irrelevant question although it keeps coming back in my head. Why?
When it’s better, it’s fun. I think most people feel this “fun” most of the time. “Fun” of just not feeling the gut, not thinking on the few open annoying action items I’m running from. Fun that you can find yourself just smiling.
It’s not just the feeling. It’s also a need for control, to not compromise, to set the rhythm, to maintain the values. I guess it’s time to take control. And face the fear.
In an aggressive environment there’s an aggressive equilibrium.
I feel uncomfortable because some of the participants cannot voice their ideas. My sympathy is immediately with the one that cannot or would not be part of this equilibrium.
I feel uncomfortable because I want to make sure I listen to others and respond in a constructive way. Sometimes I am drawn to the aggressive equilibrium. I might regret my style afterwards.
While I want to be part of the solution, many times I choose to avoid these situations.
Being strong is not being aggressive. It’s standing for what you think is right.
Change the aggressive equilibrium.
