Being close, being angry

March 23, 2018July 25, 2019 / jonathan / Leave a comment

My colleague was angry at me. He thought I criticized him too much.

The immediate instinct was to be angry back.

Then I said ” I see you are angry at me. I understand it. I want you to know I am trying to do what is right for you. You are important to me”. I said what I felt.

He was still angry.

The day after I learned he accepted my advice, although he did not have to. I smiled. I knew he understood and appreciated.

I felt we have built something healthy together.

Now replace *colleague* with *kid*.

Be true.

Share values.

Kid’s feelings, my feelings

March 22, 2018July 25, 2019 / jonathan / Leave a comment

Looking at your kid playing with others. Sensing every body movement, stress, excitement, awkwardness.

Thinking you can read his feelings.

Wishing you could have read his feelings.

Are those my feelings or his?

Can I help him?

Can I help myself?

Be true, be persistent

March 21, 2018July 25, 2019 / jonathan / Leave a comment

There is so much friction for a thinker in being untrue. Try to avoid. You get so powerful when using the truth, even if it is not always the prettiest, it makes you the strongest. Both when you tell something to other and when you are telling it to yourself.

If you sometimes mirror your thoughts out and one can see that something is on your heart, B true.

I move slow, and I think a lot. I make mistakes and get sad. My mind drifts many times. But I have long term patient. And I am persistent. It balances all the rest. B persistent

Don’t fit us to the Success model

March 15, 2018July 25, 2019 / jonathan / 1 Comment

How many different models are there to reach “success”?

Not enough. Actually one.

The lack of information and laziness cause us to put things in boxes.

Here is the model in the box:

Be Assertive, it’s ok to be Aggressive. After all you are running towards the Vision. You are a Visionaire and an Executor. Execution is all.

Important to be Result Driven and Focused. Use your Charisma to lead and tell the story. Decide Fast. Break Something.

Tell a Story. Hopefully it’s close to reality but not a must.

Outcome => This model fits a specific group. For some of us it is unnatural, we feel second best and frustrated.

We really don’t need to apply it to all.

Don’t fit in the model. Create one. Start small.

B like cat

March 12, 2018July 25, 2019 / jonathan / Leave a comment

So many great tips on how to get a non going outer to go out. But why?

These tips work for me around 1 out of 10 tries. Barely.

I try to go out because we are expected to. Because introverts are called to put some masks and go out. It’s good for your career and your relationships.

Careers and relationships should be based on strong enough foundations to accept non going outer.

Be like cat. Go out only if you want to. Won’t be easy but find a way.