This is now. Remind it to me tomorrow.

Got few things moving.

Waiting for feedback from other, believing fully it will turn on the positive side of things.

Staying positive.

A colleague gave me the feeling he counts on me. Let me lead the process. I embrace this lead.

Took a few deep breaths. Chest is moving easily.

Tomorrow – things will work well, because I am doing things in my way, open and transparent. I don’t let stress causing items stay open in the air.

Tomorrow may also bring some problems. I will start dealing with them by taking some time, then reading this note to self. And start my road back to doing in a positive way.

I will let you know how tomorrow went.

Move move move. Note for passives

Being Aggressive means*:

  1. Taking action
  2. Forceful and sometimes overly assertive pursuit of one aims
  3. It does not mean to be loud

You need to make things happen.

Start with your thoughts. Actions will come.

Getting no equals a little roadblock.

Why it’s all written here you might ask. There are times to look inside and accept yourself with compassion. It’s probably the first and most important layer. But it’s not enough. The result of this step is you feel a little better with yourself, understand more, less angry.

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Let it go

It’s funny how some distance makes everything seem small

And the fears that once controlled me can’t get to me at all

It’s time to see what I can do

To test the limits and break through

No right, no wrong, no rules for me

I’m free

Let It Go lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc, Universal Music Publishing Group

Mental wellness – why emotions

“Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood. ” U.S. Department of Health & Human Services

“Being mentally well means that your
mind is in order and functioning in your best interest. You are able to think, feel and act in ways that create a positive impact on your physical and social well-being. ” Singapore Association for Mental Health

Before we start let’s talk shorty on association: There is a negative association to the word Mental. Same as there is still to some extent to words such as Wellness, Mindful, Empathy.

The word Introvert’s association has improved a lot with Susan Cain’s Quiet but I think it’s safe to say that it mainly made introverts feel a bit better or more accurately to get to know themselves better. Outside the Introverted “community” it is still associated to being shy, non-assertive, no social, not daring, not charismatic etc. I am stating it because mental wellness will probably go in a similar route as introversion. And both are only in the beginning of their journey in the path of improving our lives.

So there’s a still a long way for Introversion but back to mental wellness. One of the biggest facts driving the importance of mental wellness is the proven connection between our mental state and our physical state. The most sarcastic Doctor, believing only what she sees in a prestige research magazine will confirm it [see some reference here]. We don’t need research to know that our mood [mind] gets down when we don’t sleep or eat [physical] or that we get sick or feel muscles pain [physical] when are stressed or in the midst of a conflict or a big decision.

Now lets talk some emotions. Emotions are part of our mind, which is a concept many argue about what it includes, how it relates to our brain and body etc., but I think that a good definition might be something like: an abstract layer, buffering between our physical us and the world. We see the world through it and it impacts how we are seen by others. Emotions, therefore, are included in our mind. And the mind plays a huge part in our life, how we experience it and what we achieve.

There are many reasons why emotions are so cool:

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Don’t fit us to the Success model

How many different models are there to reach “success”?

Not enough. Actually one.

The lack of information and laziness cause us to put things in boxes.

Here is the model in the box:

Be Assertive, it’s ok to be Aggressive. After all you are running towards the Vision. You are a Visionaire and an Executor. Execution is all.

Important to be Result Driven and Focused. Use your Charisma to lead and tell the story. Decide Fast. Break Something.

Tell a Story. Hopefully it’s close to reality but not a must.

Outcome => This model fits a specific group. For some of us it is unnatural,  we feel second best and frustrated.

We really don’t need to apply it to all.

Don’t fit in the model. Create one. Start small.