Where’s the balance between thinking independently and simply being stubborn? Reality today feels so different from twenty years ago. I find many of the changes are making things worse—frankly, almost all of them. I keep asking myself: is this just my own inability to adapt, or are these truly harmful changes? Even the way young people speak sounds strange to me. And why don’t they breathe through their noses?
Being Aggressive means*:
You need to make things happen.
Start with your thoughts. Actions will come.
Getting no equals a little roadblock.
Why it’s all written here you might ask. There are times to look inside and accept yourself with compassion. It’s probably the first and most important layer. But it’s not enough. The result of this step is you feel a little better with yourself, understand more, less angry.
Continue readingA lot is being written about this pandemic, probably too much. Many try to forecast what the future will hold. The “new normal”. Well guess what, I will not give it a try. No one knows what will change, what will stay the same. Too many try to.
But but but, and forgive me for sounding a bit dramatic, this period took the world a few steps closer to introverts. And now introverts should decide what to do with it.
I have written in the past about how introverts should try and change their model and not run by an extroverted model. I have limited but some success in that. Slowly improving. Too slow. And in the last two months we all should have gotten an increased motivation boost to explore it.
Early in the lockdown the stress was high, everything was shaking, and introverts in particular. Their routine was broken so they or we could not benefit from this new trial and error phase. Introverts like their routine 🙂
And then the magic started – the whole world started to speak introverted. Working from home, keep social distance and respect the others being. Maybe we don’t need to brainstrom everything and follow the charismatic leader that does not listen.
Moreover – we can enjoy the little things, have fun by doing nothing or very little. Eat simple. Be sad simple. Leave simple.
What a waist it would be to just bounce back and not take this experience and change.
One thing this time did not and could provide introverts. Sometimes we need to take risks. And decide.
We should connect our dots and signs from the past. Dots have a pattern that we can easily miss. Dots are events and thoughts we experienced or had.
Dots we feared at. Times that we ran to stuff that helped us deal but only made it harder the next day. Times where we raised our voices or confronted because we were scared or disappointed.
It’s easier to remember negative dots, it is harder to connect these dots to a pattern.
Continue readingHow many different models are there to reach “success”?
Not enough. Actually one.
The lack of information and laziness cause us to put things in boxes.
Here is the model in the box:
Be Assertive, it’s ok to be Aggressive. After all you are running towards the Vision. You are a Visionaire and an Executor. Execution is all.
Important to be Result Driven and Focused. Use your Charisma to lead and tell the story. Decide Fast. Break Something.
Tell a Story. Hopefully it’s close to reality but not a must.
Outcome => This model fits a specific group. For some of us it is unnatural, we feel second best and frustrated.
We really don’t need to apply it to all.
Don’t fit in the model. Create one. Start small.
I think and think. And absorb. I don’t talk that much.
I am trying to decide what to do and with whom.
How to create interfaces with people. How to not offend or be offended.
How to be happy and help and create.
And rest, and stare and not be guided by fear.
How to decide what to do and how to act.
To consider and hear others thoughts but not let it shift me from my way.
To what degree to be loyal to intuition. How much to listen to social conventions.
How to reduce judgments and shallowness. In me and in others.
To consume but not much so it will define you.
How to set my path.
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